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Get Over Him

The Science-Based Breakup Recovery Program for 
High-Achieving Professional Women

Get Over Him

The Science-Based Breakup Recovery Program for High-Achieving Professional Women

Do you feel broken just thinking about him?
I know the feeling.

I know what it's like to be so in love one moment and then completely heartbroken the next. Especially when you thought, after trying so hard, that you've finally gotten it right.

And the questions start pouring in.

"Is there something wrong with me?"
"How could he move on so quickly?"
"Am I not meant to have love?"

And the worst of the lot:

"Why wasn't I enough?"

And it's so strange, isn't it, because you have so many successes in your life... you're doing well socially, professionally and financially... yet this ONE question just haunts you—right from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to bed. 

You truly believed that you two would make it. You thought this was it.

But he broke his promises to you and wouldn't fight for what you had... and now you're left picking up the pieces of your broken heart.

You are not alone.

For years, I've worked with high-achieving, successful women just like you who are lost, devastated and betrayed. All that pain is as real as fuck and you carry it as a huge weight on your chest every single day.

But no matter how hard you work to push past this, no matter how successful you are in the other areas of your life, here’s the truth you need to know:

You must learn how to resolve the CAUSE of your painful relationship patterns, not just the symptoms...

...or you'll be forever getting over a broken heart from men who hurt you.

Don't just take my word for it, look at the divorce statistics. 

In the US alone, 41% of first marriages, 67% of second and 73% of third marriages end in divorce. Why? People don't learn. They self-sabotage, again and again and again.

It really isn't the fact that Jesus hates us (right?) or that we weren't good enough, but the fact that we chose to ACCEPT men who make really lousy boyfriends and husbands.

And no amount of personal training, new houses, vacations or promotions is going to fix this. No, not even all the new shoes you've bought.

If you find yourself always getting screwed over by emotionally unavailable, abusive and angry men, then you know that something has got to change. Right now.

How much have we let these men control our lives?

I should know. I've dated man after man who just didn't give a crap about me when it really came down to it. I've let them use me, lower me and emotionally abuse me.

And in 2015, I got pretty much screwed when my ex, who promised to marry me, not once but twice, broke my heart 4 times and left me sobbing and exhausted from trying to get him to see that I was worth it, that WE were worth it.

You shouldn't have to beg someone to care.
That's not love. 
That's abuse.

I was determined to do something about it. I was going to get back my goddamn shining light, and I was going to take back my life.

So I did just that, and in 30 short days I was able to bounce back from breakup to breakthrough. I got pretty real with myself and literally become a different person. 

The result? I met a wonderful man in less than a year from my breakup. We've been together for 4 years now.

And I want the exact same thing for you too.

Cherlyn Chong

Hi, my name is Cherlyn Chong and I'm a regularly consulted expert on Business Insider, Elite Daily, Yahoo!, MSN, AskMen, Mindbodygreen and Bustle.

And I believe that the only way to get over a breakup is to be as successful as you can WITHOUT the ex.

That's why I created this science-based system that shows you, step by step, how to heal fast, deal with the crap and end the cycle of hurt.

Even if you think you will never find someone like him again.

Introducing the Get Over Him Program

Designed to Get Accomplished Women Unfucked and Unstuck So You Can finally be the CEO of your damn life


Get Over Him is my 8-Week Group Science-Based Program with private access to me and an amazing Facebook Community that truly gets you over him.

Run personally by me, the group consists of professional single women who are going through the EXACT same thing you're going through.

High-performing women do not need to talk about their feelings to death with a therapist or more information from books.
They need to get shit done.

During the full 8 weeks, you will be hand-held each step of the way with the Get Over Him framework. You'll learn how to use the Core Identity Healing Cleanse and Change systems and get live feedback from me and other women in the GOH Inner Circle Facebook Group. After the live 8 weeks are done, you'll have access to the program and group for life.

Additionally, you'll gain access to worksheets, homework assignments, bonus modules, live workshops, live healing sessions, hypnotherapy audios and my best resources to help you get over your ex and heal up for good.

Heal Your Soul Fast

It can feel like he took a big piece of you and ran away with it. Let's get that missing part of you back and make you whole once again.

Deal with the Crap

Dealing with high-functioning anxiety, brokenness and overwhelm? Let's put a stop to the  nonsense and find peace.

End the Cycle of Hurt

We don't just aim to heal you from your breakup. We aim to help you end the cycle of bad relationships and shitty men... for GOOD.

The best "revenge" against the ex is to be as successful as you can.
Live better, feel sexier, earn more, BE better.

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How much time, energy and emotions has he cost you? How much are stress and overwhelm setting you back in your career? Are you jeopardizing your job because of him? 

How much therapy have you had already? Can you afford to waste more time, energy and money on the wrong men?

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Who is the program for?
It's for women who are...

  • Leaders, business owners, go-getters
  • Successful in life but not in love (yet)
  • Sick and tired of crying over the ex
  • Ready to take charge of their lives, once and for all
  • Really tired of talking it out in therapy
  • In need of real, proven results that stick
  • Looking for a healthy, loving relationship
  • Invested and committed to their success, both personally and professionally

So ​to sum up...
Here's what you'll get:

Actionable Strategy 

and Systems


Strategy and Systems

Smart, ambitious women don't need more knowledge or to talk about feelings to death. They need to get shit done. All my systems are easy to implement and execute... and they get results. Fast.

Closure, Healing 

and Strength

Heal live with me as I walk you through the Core Identity Healing method to shatter old beliefs that keep you in high-functioning anxiety and addiction. Find your closure and your strength.

Community and


Share your story and get 24/7 lifetime support in the Get Over Him Inner Circle Facebook Group and build relationships with other like-minded women. It's truly a sisterhood and new best friends.

Guidance and


Get personalized advice from me in the group and live Q&A video calls. Learn how to apply the Get Over Him science framework to your lifestyle and be kept accountable through easy homework.

Let's dive a little deeper
Here's what you'll learn:

Get Over Him consists of 6 core strategy modules delivered over 8 weeks. All program materials—streaming videos, MP3s, downloadables, homework submission forms and more—are within a members-only online portal.


Drowning and The Loss of Your Ship

Our journey starts with acknowledging two key things—that there's a moment of pure shock when your ship (your relationship) sinks and then the devastation that feels like you are drowning.  We start the Core Identity Healing—Cleanse process here.

In this module, you'll:

  • Learn the psychology of shock, and determine if you are still in emotional shock— i.e., "Can't believe this is happening to me" or feel like you're in a fog
  • Prevent self-doubt from spiraling out of control with one powerful ritual
  • Learn how to deal with the endless thoughts of him
  • Enforce your No Contact and understand why it's so important
  • Compartmentalize the painful feelings with the "Robot" technique so you can just get what you need done 
  • Most importantly, learn how to make a Core Identity Decision


Getting to the Surface

The endless onslaught of devastation can feel like drowning, but we'll gently get you floating to the surface for your first breath of air. The Core Identity Healing—Cleanse process continues here.

In this module, you'll:

  • Understand why grieving and expressing your emotions—devastation, anger, guilt, fear, shame, etc—is so important 
  • Be able to survive the necessary grief work as we work through it step by step
  • Discover why the "Purging" technique is a key thing to do after grieving
  • Get the answers to the Stage 1 questions in your head—why your relationship failed, why your ex did what he did, etc
  • Get inside the heads of narcissistic, angry, controlling and emotionally abusive men and understand why they do what they do
  • Find the courage within you to accept that your breakup happened
  • Leverage your Core Identity Decision for deep empathy and compassion to help you look forwards, not back


Learning How to Swim

Now we're really flowing!

The waves ahead can be super daunting, but we'll start the psychological separation between you and your relationship by learning how to take very small strokes before the bigger, scarier ones. We find your closure here.

In this module, you'll:

  • Use the "Reject the Rejector" visualization that mentally puts your ex back in his place
  • Discover how to drop the victim mindset and embracing the "What Does It Take?" bulletproof mindset
  • Challenge your deepest doubts, insecurities and fears so you can make a "Daring Decision"
  • Use the seemingly counterproductive "Even More" method to propel yourself to take that first, scary step forward
  • Learn more about yourself and the chemicals that make up addiction 
  • Delve deep into the science of high-functioning anxiety and depression that many career-driven women have
  • Understand why your great professional traits are sabotaging you and your love life
  • Give yourself complete closure over what happened with the ex


Finding Your Own Cruise Ship

We are swimming along powerfully and establishing ourselves as a brand new person. We're finding our own damn cruise ship, building it up and firmly proclaiming ourselves as the captain of it. We start the Core Identity Healing—Change process here.

In this module, you'll:

  • Rise up and establish your key identity—the daring new person you truly want to be
  • Create identity-based habits that stick using the "Implementation Intention" strategy and my favorite habit tracker app
  • Implement performance techniques that get 300% more done at work, so you can stress less and think of him less
  • Learn an astonishingly simple meditation for high performers, used by top employees and CEOs at Barclays, Google and Forbes
  • Learn how to avoid burnout and sleep like a cat
  • Utilize the extremely powerful "Anchor" method to take back control of the painful memories 
  • Learn exactly what your relationship attachment style is and what you can do about it


Surviving the Waves

Grief waves are just a part of the process, but no one is ever prepared for how devastating it might actually be. Here, we find out to how prepare for and deal as life lets a huge tidal wave splash over you again.

In this module, you'll:

  • Understand and deal with the grief waves and painful triggers
  • "Embrace the Suck"—how to utilize this military speak to deal with the lemons life throws
  • Get the answers to the Stage 2 questions in your head—how can he move on so easily, why is this so hard for you, etc
  • Leverage your anger and any desire for revenge to producing the best professional and personal results you have in years
  • Actively manage loneliness and hopelessness—what to do when it gets too much
  • Learn how to deal with the ex if you bump into him, if he comes back or if you are undergoing difficulties in court


Finding Land

Whoohoo! You have lead your ship to land. On this new soil, you'll say goodbye to the ocean where your former relationship lies, forgive, let go and move on for good. You now have the power to NEVER let another relationship conquer you ever again.

In this module, you'll:

  • Severe all attachments and release yourself from the ex in a "Promise Break" ceremony 
  • Forgive yourself, your ex and all past exes with the "Water Flow" ritual
  • Learn how to lock in new behaviors and habits that end the cycle of toxic men for good
  • Learn more about narcissists, angry, controlling and immature men and how to spot them immediately
  • Set down soft and hard boundaries for people and never allow toxicity into your life again
  • Discover how to conquer the crippling fear of getting hurt again by a man
  • Cultivate vulnerability and true courage so you can live a heart-centered life

And Additional Bonuses
To help you in your journey:


7-Day Reverse Recovery Course

The Reverse Recovery is a more intensive 7-day self-paced audio course where we reverse the steps of healing to ensure that you heal much faster than traditional, time-consuming methods of healing.

Every single day for 7 days, you will receive an email that opens up an audio that's 10-20mins long and each action plan consists of step-by-step instructions that should only take another 10-20mins to complete.

Designed for the busy woman, by the end of the course, you will not only feel profoundly healed but you will also rediscover your authentic self and ignite hope again in your heart.


Additional Lessons

The main modules cover a whole bunch of material, but there will still be some very specific things that you might experience during your healing journey. These bonus lessons will help you out even more:

  • How to Get Yourself to Sleep and Eat
  • Dealing with the Dreams
  • How to Break it to Other People
  • Copy + Paste Texts for Dealing with the Ex
  • Helping the Kids Cope (If You're a Parent)
  • Coparenting with the Ex (If You're a Parent)


Hypnotherapy MP3s

Hypnotherapy is a great tool to help relax and imprint unconscious empowering ideas in your head. There's one Get Over Him hypnotherapy for each healing module, voiced personally by me:

  • You're Doing Just Fine
  • Stop Thinking of Him
  • Reject the Rejector
  • You Are Loved
  • Embrace the Suck
  • This Too Shall Pass


Live Facebook Group Workshops + Healing Sessions

In addition to the LIVE Facebook Q&A Calls every week, you get LIVE Workshops and LIVE Healing Sessions with me where I take you through the science and psychology of one specific hot topic or heal you up right in that session.

Both will be conducted on alternative weeks of each other, and you will get topics like:

  • The Science of High-Functioning Anxiety and How to Beat It
  • EFT Tapping to Calm the F**k Down When Your Narcissistic Ex Pisses You Off
  • The Science of The Highly Sensitive Person and The Angry, Selfish Man
  • Why Does He Hurt Me?—Inside the Head of the Narcissistc and Angry Man
  • Co-parenting with the Narcissistic Ex and How to Render Him Powerless

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What is the Get Over Him program?

It's a science-based breakup recovery program for high-achieving professional women who want to get over a man.

High-achievers get more done than most people, but they also get hurt more deeply.

Our philosophy is that the only way to get over a breakup is to be as successful as you can WITHOUT the ex.

How is the program delivered?

The program is delivered via 6 core modules on an online members-only portal, live workshops and Q&A calls, and a private Facebook group. On the Get Over Him portal, you can also find additional resources for each module and access all of the bonuses.

The live portion of the program is 8 weeks long, and then you will have lifetime access to the modules, resources and Facebook Group.

Once you enroll, you'll receive your login details and have immediate access to Module 1 on the online portal and live Get Over Him Inner Circle Facebook community.

If you're in the VIP program, we will also officially start the 1:1 coaching sessions with me, first being the Deep Dive sessions, followed by the Core Identity Healing sessions. The modules are dripped out weekly, so that we can all go through this together.

Every time a new module is unlocked, you will receive an email informing you about it. There will be other emails in your inbox to motivate you and keep you accountable.

Each module will have homework for you to complete and get feedback on. There will also be other resources like hypnotherapy audios, worksheets and software for you to use.

As we go along, you'll be invited to participate in the Facebook community and any live workshops that I conduct, just for you. =)

I need more support, is there an option to work with Cherlyn privately?

Yes, a VIP option for 1:1 sessions with Cherlyn is available. Just click HERE to book free 1 hr call with Cherlyn to discuss all your needs and make sure it's the right fit for you.

What if I don't have the time do this program yet?

Hop on a call with me so we can plan this out for you HERE.

And not to worry, all of the modules will be inside the members-only portal waiting for you when you're ready. 

The live Q&A calls and all other group sessions with me are also recorded, so you can catch up on those at your convenience as well. 

But all in all, I seriously recommend that you make the time. You find time for things that are important to you, and you're not successful today because you "didn't have the time."

So, make time for things that are important to you. After all, you had time for the shitty men in your life, so it's time for you now.

Why is it important for me to get over him?

If you find that the quality of your mental state and life have deteriorated because of your ex, and this has been a painful problem for you for years, it's time to resolve it entirely.

Without getting the help you need, you're likely to keep repeating the same pattern with the same sort of men in the future.

It's not fun to be constantly betrayed, abandoned, and rejected for years. :'(

What's the % success rate and what kind of results can I expect?

As of April 2020, 97% of the women in the program have gotten over their exes thoroughly. 

I will say that you WILL experience a profound change if you truly do the work, show up and follow through.

Many of the women who worked with me have experienced the following:

  1. True peace with what happened
  2. A lot less rumination around the ex
  3. Clear insight and clarity as to what happened
  4. Clear insight and clarity to the type of men they tend to attract
  5. Successful No-Contact with the ex
  6. No more doubting themselves or their decisions
  7. Got a promotion or got hired for a new job
  8. More money earned (we've added $13,000 to $50,000 to the annual income of our clients)
  9. More peaceful sleep and less nightmares
  10. Not waking up dreading the day
  11. Less weight on their chests
  12. Much less anxiety around the breakup
  13. Much stronger boundaries
  14. Forgiveness of themselves and the ex
  15. Less procrastination
  16. A lot less fear around the future
  17. Real hope for the future
  18. The courage to walk bravely forward
  19. Taking charge of their lives, including the upleveling of their professional lives
  20. Setting real boundaries and sticking to them

Please note that while these results are common, the exact type of result you get depends entirely on you. 

I cannot guarantee the results simply because I can't guarantee you'll do the work.

Your results will be based on many variables, such as your level of effort, tendency to procrastinate or go back on yourself, personal qualities, knowledge, skills, and a host of other factors.

I anticipate the pitfalls and put in effort to make sure that you get 100% success, but my techniques only work if you do! I'm not a "get over your ex overnight and easily" kind of coach. The process still does take time, discipline, determination and hard work.

The more focus and dedication you put into Get Over Him, the more you’ll get out of it.

Is this program suitable for women going through a divorce or just a breakup?

Both. Get Over Him is suitable for any success-focused career woman going through heartbreak from a man.

It's been a while since my breakup/divorce. Can I still enroll?


Because if you're still devastated and not healed, there's a part of your healing process that you've skipped or have not been able to deal with. Plus, you also want to make sure that this sort of hurt doesn't happen again.

I like to joke that my real job is to prevent people from getting divorced in a few years' time because you'll be with the RIGHT guy. 😉

My question isn't listed here—how do I get in touch?

You can type in your question directly in the chatbox on the right and we'll get back to you asap. 

You can also send your question to [email protected]. And of course, you can definitely ask your question in the free clarity call with me. =)

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