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Is Reconnecting with an Ex Ever a Good Idea?

As a breakup recovery coach, I'll be honest, generally, the answer to this hot question is no. 

After all, you did break up for a reason. 

And most of the time, the reason will continue to be the same reason why you should never get back together again... ever.

But there are some instances in which it's a good idea to get back together with an ex:

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  • 4th November 2019

The Truth About Being The Loyal Girl With A Broken Heart

There’s a saying that goes, “After a breakup, the loyal one stays single and deals with the damages until healed. The other one is already in a relationship.”

It sounds so bleak, so dismissive and so hopeless. And at a glance, we think it’s true. After all, we’re the ones suffering, discarded and unloved, while they get to go about galavanting around with their new girlfriend and living their happy, happy life.

We’re the ones nursing our broken hearts, devastated and ashamed, forced to witness someone else living the future we always thought was meant for us.

But fret not dear one, I’m here to completely spoil that saying for you.

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  • 8th October 2017

2 Shelving Your Former Relationship

Going through your first holiday while newly single, even when you're nearly over your ex, can sure bring back a whole new level of dread.

It's an awkward time, and you might feel somewhat anxious, a little lonely and a little guilty, tinged with bits of delight here and there.

Mixed Bag of Emotion

Or you might just downright hate everything.

Let it snow

But annoying truth be told, I find that the holidays are actually the BEST time to finally be done with your former relationship. Ya know, "out with the old, in with the new"?

So here's a holiday visualization that I did to clear off all that old energy and leave my former relationship firmly in the past:

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  • 12th November 2016

A Story for Anyone Who Has Ever Loved

Summer, 2010.

I’m in Phoenix, Arizona, it’s morning and I’m just having my breakfast. I sit down next to a guy in glasses. He’s cute and blond, and we’re both traveling around California for two weeks.

I introduce myself, and he says his name is Ben, and that he’s a graphic designer.

Wow, I say, so am I.

And so it begins.

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  • 27th August 2016